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End of an era: For those who've enjoyed the 'Mum' stories.
« on: December 05, 2017, 05:21:25 PM »
   Paddy, (Mum), the Grand Matriarch of our tribe, having become unbelievably frail  over this last year, was finally allowed to escape from the trials of this world.   She had a damn good run at life, did many of the things she wanted to do, and survived things which would have floored a lesser woman.

   She was also the most ruthless and unbiased proofreader any author could ask for.  I've missed that over the last few years as dementia tightened its grip.

   When Dad went over the handlebars of his motorbike in the mid sixties and was in a coma for six weeks, and then confined to a wheelchair for the next fourteen years, Mum just buckled down and took up the slack.  She brought me and my sister up to be reasonably civilised and well adapted people despite the odds, and occasional problems.  Not content with this she then went on to be a Grandma, and then a great Grandma.

   Her Grandchildren and Great Grandchildren thought the world of her, and she of them.  Although she had few illusions about us and saw as for what we were she loved us unconditionally.

   So we have a whole new life to adjust to now and although we appreciate any words of sympathy don't be surprised if we retreat back into ourselves for a while to regroup.  Letters and emails may be in short supply for a while as we grieve in our individual ways.

   Mum will, as requested, be cremated and - as she said - 'go out through the same door as your Dad did'.  Quite literally at the same crematorium and the same chapel.   She was convinced he'd be waiting there for her, probably wearing his cocky little grin and saying "Took your time, didn't you, Love".  Because if there is another world he'll be there to greet her.  Probably turning up just in time, with a residual little blob of shaving foam stuck behind one ear, like the way he always managed to just catch the bus when we went out as a family.  I'm sure an old school Baptist and his Pagan wife will work it somehow ;-)

   Now, like any wounded animals, we need our own time and place to heal.  Comforted by the one over-riding thought that nothing is hurting or confusing Mum any more.

   We shall miss her.

   Gyppo, his two warrior women, his Sister, and the rest of the tribe.
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« Reply #1 on: December 05, 2017, 05:29:10 PM »
Condolences to you and your family Gyppo, she sounds like a formidable woman.

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« Reply #2 on: December 05, 2017, 06:39:16 PM »
 :'( :'(

Oh Gyp, words do fail me, mum was mum to all of us here and she will be missed.  :-* :-*

My friend there will still be mum stories as they come to mind and fill your finger tips with words.

I'll say nothing more and let you go about your way

Love to you all, farewell Grand Matriarch  :-*
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« Reply #3 on: December 05, 2017, 06:43:08 PM »
I'm so sorry, Gyppo. I feel like I know your Mum from all your wonderful stories about her, and I know it's a hard loss.

What a woman!
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« Reply #4 on: December 05, 2017, 07:14:53 PM »
Thanks, Folks.  There will be other stories later.  Sis and I were remembering stuff today.

This last week we've known it was just a matter of time.  She'd been very peaceful the last few days.  We could see her batteries were running down.

Today she just quietly slipped away.  The nursing home rang up to say she wasn't eating at all, and asked if I would be in to see her.  By the time I'd checked my pockets, picked up some money for a taxi etc, slipped on my jacket and decided I'd collect Sis on the way rather than phone her I got a second call.

My last visit was on Monday with my eldest and Alma, when Mum was very sleepy but peaceful.  She recognised my voice and looked up and smiled at us, and smiled and laughed a little when I sang her a cheeky folk song I knew she liked and some school rhymes from her childhood.  Then we gave her a cuddle, tucked her up because she was so sleepy, and went home.   
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« Reply #5 on: December 05, 2017, 07:43:54 PM »
Quietly, as she would have wanted it Gyppo, no fuss, no fanfare  :-*
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« Reply #6 on: December 05, 2017, 09:41:34 PM »
I'm so sorry.

You have been such a good son. So generous. Sharing your Mum with all of us here. The Valkyrie stalks the halls, in command, and I'm sure the stories will continue.

Have you printed them out and saved them for Alma? I'm sure they will mean the world to her (and her mother, too).
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« Reply #7 on: December 05, 2017, 09:43:15 PM »
Gyp - just popped in to offer my condolences. Always enjoyed the 'Mum tales', and it sounds indeed like she was allowed to leave on her own terms with her dignity intact, which is a real blessing.

Now for the journey those of you left behind will have to travel. I'm so glad you have your tribe to share it with.
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Re: End of an era: For those who've enjoyed the 'Mum' stories.
« Reply #8 on: December 06, 2017, 01:48:44 AM »
Gyppo, I'm so very sorry to hear the news of your mum's passing.

I've loved hearing your stories of her over the years, and I know she will be sadly missed by you all.

Sending condolences and huge hugs to you all, mate.

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« Reply #9 on: December 06, 2017, 05:28:22 AM »
I am so sorry, Gyppo, for your tremendous loss.  :'(

May Mum's memory for ever be a blessing to you and the whole tribe.

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« Reply #10 on: December 06, 2017, 09:48:22 AM »
It sounds like a good end, Gyppo.  That won't stop you missing her - it won't stop us missing her - but missing her won't stop you remembering all the best times.

She danced till the party was over.  Then she quietly tidied up and went home.

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« Reply #11 on: December 08, 2017, 06:25:19 AM »
I've been thinking of you and hope you and your family are doing all right. Please take care of yourselves and retell the best stories over and over and remember some of the lesser known ones to share as well.
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« Reply #12 on: December 08, 2017, 01:32:05 PM »
We are.  looking after each other and remembering stories.

Family and friends will be having a little gathering after the service.

There's a more paperwork involved than the last time we had to deal with this sort of thing.

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Re: End of an era: For those who've enjoyed the 'Mum' stories.
« Reply #13 on: December 08, 2017, 06:09:47 PM »
Paperwork in itself is enough to do your head in mate.

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Re: End of an era: For those who've enjoyed the 'Mum' stories.
« Reply #14 on: December 08, 2017, 08:08:45 PM »
Sis and I will whip it into line between us.  The will is strong even if the spirit is a bit muted.  She taught us well.
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