Hi Tom
I really like this piece. It resonates in a strangely coincidental way, and I’m sure it did for others too.
I’m late to this and am doing you that courtesy of skipping the other comments... so I may be redundant in my observations, forgive me if so. I do see in scrolling by that Zipho (

) has been breaking the piece down nicely. I’m not too enthusiastic about the title as it’s echoed in L2 of the poem – a title can be used to add something further or to clarify/introduce the poem but that doesn’t seem to apply here. For example in my second case, it could be 9/11 or The Funeral and that would add context. Other than the title, I have only one other hopefully helpful nit.
The theme examines a premise that is self-evident in the writing so I’m not going to repeat it but would like to add that (in my view) the piece’s subtheme also implies that it is the small things that actually define a person and how we deal with the big events when they do occur. The subjects introduced are handled in the delightfully quirky odd angles of reflection that characterise your poeming and are a pleasure to read.
My nit relates to the syntax employed in that the balance of the writing after ‘it’s’ - word 2, line 2, stanza 2 - is the pivot upon which the poem runs to its conclusion. It seems the lines in S3 are a continuation of those in S2. If I am incorrect with this, then my nit falls flat and S3 works in isolation as a free-floating list. The bugbear for me is ‘and’ in L3 S3 and also that ‘it’s’ has to stretch a long way, including crossing a stanza enjambment but this second nit-element does nevertheless work if ‘and’ is eliminated.
Rearranged for illustration.
Instead,
it’s the way a creek works the bank at each curve,
(it’s) the heat between spoons,
(it’s) a finger faintly tracing flesh.
(it’s) Our small hesitancies–
(it’s) the space between days,
(it’s) the eyes in the mirror,
(it’s) and who rises each morning to slice peaches and crack eggs.
One other thing striking me now is the ambiguity in L4 S1. What was never true – the pulsing/thinking or the big events defining us? I think it’s the tense used in L4 that contributes to this (perceived) diffusion of intended meaning, which is admittedly clear enough.
I like this piece so much I’m copying and sending to K.

Very nice work, Tom. Thank you.
(Peaches and eggs, that a Minnesota or Tom thing?)