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Offline Spell Chick

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Friend in need
« on: January 08, 2013, 12:28:43 PM »
I just found out my old neighbor has metastatic cancer. They found the original problem in her leg, but it is lung cancer and she has two small lesions on her brain.

I don't know what else to do for her except ask that any who care to send good wishes think of this lovely woman and send up prayers that she may find peace and comfort.

If it makes a difference, I know how lovely she is because she worked as a pediatric surgical nurse and could make the babies and small kids more comfortable in a totally awful place. She was always much better at that than me. If a kid came to surgery, I was pretty much whelmed myself. She held them gently in her hands and heart.

I would hope that Karma would reach out and take care of her now, in her hour of need.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2013, 12:33:05 PM »
I'm so sorry. Words just seen useless at times likes this. Huge hugs to you both.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2013, 12:35:39 PM »
On a mums forum I go on they ask people to knit or crochet squares. They call them wooly hugs and put them together in a blanket. I always thought it was a lovely idea.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2013, 12:41:07 PM »
Words often empty into emotions too hard to express.

If I could wrap my feelings and send it to her, I would.

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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2013, 12:47:10 PM »
Thanks.

Her husband volunteers in a band that plays for local charity events. He posted pictures all Christmas long and his daughters were with him as he played but never his wife. I didn't really think anything of it until I found out she had been being diagnosed and treatment started.

It just sounds so bleak.

I wish the whole family well. They are such nice people.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #5 on: January 08, 2013, 01:22:26 PM »
what can words say to a family at a time like this? I am not particularly religious but at times like this I go to the church and light a candle, I will do that tomorrow, whether it helps? I don't know.........
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #6 on: January 08, 2013, 01:24:22 PM »
Let's hope she is aware of how many people she has touched and that it might bring her comfort.

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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #7 on: January 08, 2013, 01:40:31 PM »
I can't express words at these times. I'll just send big hugs. :-* :-* :'(

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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #8 on: January 08, 2013, 04:31:25 PM »
Thanks all. After I got home from work and could actually have enough peace to cogently write her a note, I sent off a letter.

Her condition sounds bleak and it is leaving me feeling both angry and sad.

I don't do prayers very well and feel a bit of hypocrite when praying, but I've been doing that all day.

I have such wonderful stories of the street we all lived on and the way our families shared the space and laughed together.

When they first moved in there was a pool party and the street members were all in attendance. She kept calling my husband Fred. This isn't so strange as there were two Freds living on the street. I just wasn't married to one of them. I sat her down and told her to think body parts and we laughed a bit and she was good to go.

Now, we were partying at the pool and there was a bit of alcohol flowing.

It wasn't five minutes later when she wanted to talk to my husband who was a few picnic tables away. She called out to him, "Peter!"

Right body part; wrong name.

He was Peter Dick for the rest of the time we lived on that street.

 :o :o :o

I loved this street.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #9 on: January 08, 2013, 07:24:11 PM »
I remember you telling that story once before about your neighbour Patti, I am so sorry to hear this.

I will send my good wishes too and hope that she finds a safe path out of this horror.  ???
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #10 on: January 08, 2013, 07:43:09 PM »
Lot's of positive energy being sent your way to share with your friend, Patti.

And how great that you're remembering better times.  Peter Dick  ;D Those are the kind of memories that will keep your friend with you always.
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #11 on: January 08, 2013, 08:22:06 PM »
Thinking of your friend Patti, wishing her all the strength and hope possible to accompany her through her treatment. I remember you mentioning that story about her forgetting hubby's name too :D

Can you cook something that can be frozen - soup, lasagne... for the nights when her family are worn out and wouldn't have to worry about cooking a meal?

If you think it would help... I have made several cotton hats for friends and family going through chemo. I'd make her one if you could give me a guess about what size she might be, and where to send it.
It's good to laugh at yourself once in a while - why let everyone else have all the fun!
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Re: Friend in need
« Reply #12 on: January 08, 2013, 08:48:04 PM »
I have moved far away - about 650 miles away.

I don't know what I can do from this distance except offer her my hopes for a recovery and prayers for comfort. I've done that.

I should some day tell y'all how he turned into Peter Dewey Dick .... but it's rather complicated.
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