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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #45 on: December 01, 2010, 10:49:23 PM »
Quite the contrary, Kiskie. I totally agree with you. Somewhere we got our wires crossed. I think it's nearly impossible to write any kind of scene that the author doesn't invest him/herself into somehow. It may reflect actual experiences or it may be fantasies or just well-absorbed gossip that tittles the imagination, but somewhere between the words, the author is present.

(I apologize for the change of topic in another post. Just got carried away with candles and the season.)

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #46 on: December 02, 2010, 08:18:17 AM »
Oh my gracious! Not another human in MWC? ;D ;D ;D

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #47 on: December 19, 2010, 09:40:10 PM »
It's a completely different thing writing sex for mainstream fiction than writing it for erotica.

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #48 on: December 20, 2010, 05:45:14 AM »
It's a completely different thing writing sex for mainstream fiction than writing it for erotica.

That is very true.  In the first the sex is just the seasoning, and as such, used well and in moderation, can work well.  In the latter it's the main course with just enough plot and storyline to act as a serving dishes, as vehicles for the titillation.  And porn...  Well, that's just the written sexual equivalent to a Kentucky Fried bargain bucket, all just piled in there with no finesse and a label telling you what it's supposed to be.

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #49 on: December 20, 2010, 05:58:41 PM »
I have written and re-written the same dreaded scene too many times to count and did everything in my power to keep my characters from going there.  I know it's wrong, but I take so much comfort seeing so many others have faced the same problem.  As a teen, my most private notes were discovered by my father and, thinking it would be cute to see into my world, he read one unfortunate collection.  For me, the horror of being caught and then sat down by my father was enough to make me put my pen up for a very long time.  The words that were not entirely blotted out by my embarrassment have stuck with me ever since.  "Don't write anything you wouldn't want your father to read."  I have had to tell myself that Dad, the man with the playboys and penthouse letter collections that sat out on his dresser, would just have to pretend someone else wrote those pages in my book.

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #50 on: December 20, 2010, 06:02:15 PM »
 :-[ I love italics, don't you? 

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Re: Writing About Sex in Fiction
« Reply #51 on: December 20, 2010, 06:06:25 PM »
Oppression, repression....common bugbears of the 'decent' woman.

Let it all go if you want..most of it is fiction and OMG you haven't actually DONE any of this or fantasised about it or had friends tell you the gory details or heard on TV or read somewhere else or imagined what it might be like........

Sex...I've been led to believe is a normal human function that is actually essential to well-being - physical and psychological...and if you're not getting it any more it's nice to read about it and rekindle memories of the good old days when you could sling your ankles behind some hunk's neck without tearing a hamstring or getting stuck in a very strange and uncomfortable position! :D :D :D