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Offline deborahowen

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Websites? You mean you are studying websites, you create them, or you have a lot of them?
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Offline Hugh

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Now that both of us have our first impressions out of the way, can we be friends?

Deb


I hope so, Deb. On reflection, I thought perhaps I should not have posted anything during what has been a stressful weekend. If I have caused offence by my bluntness, sorry.

On Friday my wife had an accident. She wasnít hurt but was, and still is, badly shaken. She was turning into a remote part of the supermarket car park, where thereís always plenty of room, being some way from the store (people donít seem to want to walk more than a couple of yards these days).

Instead of completing the turn, the car (an automatic) suddenly shot forwards, demolished a wooden post and rail fence, then hit a parked car. Whether the throttle jammed, or her foot slipped off the brake, weíll never know.

I got a call to tell me what had happened, and phoned my son-in-law, who immediately drove there, escorted my wife while she did the shopping, and brought her home. The police had said they thought the car was driveable enough to bring it home, so he got a lift to the store and drove it back here.

A hug and reassurance didnít stop the shakes. ďAs long as youíre all right, thatís all that matters. The car is only metal. It can be replaced. You canít.Ē

Iím now waiting to hear when an engineer from the insurance company will be coming to assess the damage. I suspect heíll say our car is a write-off ó itís twelve years old, so would probably cost more to repair than itís worth. But thatís a problem to be addressed when it arises. People are more important than possessions.

Having got that off my chest, Iíll let you have your thread back. I may be out of touch for a day or two, while I try and sort everything out.

Hugh

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I'm so sorry to hear about your wife's accident. And now that you're settling down from that,
you still have the mess to work out with the car. Insurance and repairs are always a pain.
The car wasn't a Toyota, was it? I'm supposing you've heard about their stuck gas pedals.

Yes, I admit you did offend me, and I'm not easily offended. I thought, "Gee, can't
anyone just be honest and willing to help others without somebody jumping on their case?"
But I suppose if you saw it as you did, maybe others do, too. As I said, I came to the site
looking forward to meeting professionals. After I logged in and clicked on a couple of threads,
I realized I was on another amateur site. I'm already helping out on one of those, so not
knowing how friendly anyone was or if they were finding satisfactory answers to questions, I
put up a meek emoticon and offered help. I'm sorry that was misunderstood.

It wasn't until after I had met two or three people that I realized I also had an opportunity
to invite people to my site. I apologize for barking at you. I should have replied in kindness.
Like you - it hit me at a bad time. I just learned my [almost] 92-year old mother has cancer
and they want her to have surgery. She also has a bad heart and Alzheimer, so I don't know
how well she will make it through the surgery.

So - let's begin again. A little about me: I've been married 50 years and my husband and I
live in an RV. We don't travel much, however, because our elderly mothers now need our care.
We have two married children and four grandchildren. :) Maybe we can talk further when things
settle down for both of us.

I'm pleased to meet you, and again, I apologize for being touchy. I'm ordinarily more tolerant
than that.

Have a great day, and go with the flow. Everything will be fine.

Deb




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Offline Hugh

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Thank you, Deb and Joe. Meg is pretty resilient ó after all, on Wednesday she will have been married to me for 51 years.

I donít like upsetting people, especially ladies, so I apologise again for upsetting you, Deb. With blokes itís different. As my father used to say: ďYouíre big enough and ugly enough to look after yourself.Ē He was a Highland Scot and pretty tough: perhaps that where I got a tendency for bluntness.

The insurance assessor is coming at 8 a.m. tomorrow, so itís wait and see time. Iíll be I touch.

Hugh

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No problem, Hugh. I'd rather have it upfront than behind my back any day. Now we're friends.

And, btw, my apparent friendship with the mods was because they were the only ones who had welcomed
me at that point. :)  And - I'm just now learning that everything I said to them and you was public. I thought
I was PMing. *Woe is me

So your wife has really put up with you that long?  :o  We just celebrated our 50th anniv. Dec. 30. Whee!! We
celebrated five days (no - not drinking). He married me for the 3rd time! (Again on 25th anniv., so the preacher said,
"Okay, you know what you're getting into this time. Are you sure you want to do this?"  And hubby went...   ::)
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